Frequently Asked Questions

1. What should I wear to your wedding?
   Aside from recommending clothes, both required and preferable for fall in New England, we leave that up to you. On a required survey from one of the bridal shops she visited, Meg listed the occasion's formality & feel as "tea party funky," which was a far cry from the options they provided (black tie, black tie optional, formal, beach). Wear clothes that you feel like celebrating in, we'll be doing the same. Err on the side of being comfortable rather than formal, if you're stuck for a decision!
   
   
2. What should I get you as a wedding present?
   We actually mean it when we cite the wedding cliche that "your presence is the greatest gift we could hope for," but we understand that material gifts are a traditional (& fun!) component to weddings in this country. If it comes down to one or the other, please, show up and celebrate with us!
   That said, we did register through the "I Do Foundation," so that you can buy us traditional gifts at Macy's. If you click through the link below they'll donate a chunk of any registry purchase made to a few worthy charities that we selected, or you can just offera donation in our names.
   The I Do Foundation
   Our registries
   If you're in a gifting mood, but nothing on the registry appeals to you (it is, unsurprisingly, heavy on kitchen-ware), feel free to use your best judgment, we love home- and handmade things of all sorts, and we love all sorts of other things it's hard to register for, too.
   
   
3. Can I bring a friend?
   What, you don't like our friends?
   Sadly, we are beyond the house party phase of our lives when "the more the merrier" as long as you "BYOB" had strong appeal, actually, we're not sure if we ever even went through that phase, we must be old!
   We really must insist (due to quotidian things, like catering head counts) that only the people listed on the invitation join us. But of course if we failed to invite someone you think ought to be there (the downside of old age is, of course, faulty memory), or if you got an invite and your ride to the wedding didn't, please let us know and we'll do our best to fix the situation!
   
   
4. Is Meg going to wear a white dress? Is Ry going to wear a tux? What about vice versa, will Ry wear a dress while Meg wears a tux??
   Well, without giving too much away, let's say that we're sidling up next to tradition, if not following it precisely. While we know there were bets in the works calling for Meg to show up in her usual cargo pants, black t-shirt, & boots, and for Ry to show up in his pimpin' purple thrift store suit, we plan on going all out for this shindig and dressing to the relatively traditional nines.
   
   
5. Can I record/photograph/videotape at your wedding?
   Please!! We'd love it if you shared whatever material you end up with us after the event, too! Look in your wedding program for easy instructions on how to upload your photos & videos to so that everyone can see them!